I don’t have time. I’m too tired after work. I don’t feel like working out after the kids go to bed. Prepping healthy meals is so time-consuming. I just like food and enjoy eating. It is so hard for me to lose weight because of my diabetes. Excuses. Oh, I had plenty of them. Sometimes I still need to consciously ensure that I don’t accidentally slip right back into an excuse not to eat healthy or exercise. It’s so easy to find a reason not to do something. Especially when that something is going to be a lot of hard work, time, and dedication. For a long time, I have loved the idea of losing weight and being active and healthy, but have always allowed my excuses to get in the way. It was so much easier to justify why I couldn’t do something than finding and focusing on what I could do and why I was capable of doing it.

When I started my weight loss journey I was pretty reluctant to think that this was going to be anything that I would be successful at. After all, I have never figured it out before. I wanted a positive change for my children. I wanted them to have a healthy and strong mommy they could depend on. More than that, I didn’t want to miss out on any of their growing up either. Any time I felt or still feel discouraged or that I might give up, I always look back at why I started…my three babies – my biggest WHY factor. I want them to be active and healthy in their own choices. I don’t want them to experience a lot of the things I had to go through – the bullying, the name calling, the body shaming. I want to teach them how to rise above that petty stuff. Things like being called “Miss Piggy” in high school, or a co-worker who commented that he would put me in the “chubby category,” or a woman who I didn’t know casually passing a remark “fat girls like us.” WHAT!? I can’t quit. I want them to learn from me and from my mistakes. I want them to know kindness and to be kind to those around them regardless of anyone looks.  I want them to see their mama fight for her health, because without it, what’s left?

Throw the excuses out the window, off the train, run them over… Do whatever it is that you gotta do to get rid of them. Make intentional excuses for yourself for all the reasons why you want to exercise and eat well. Surround yourself with people who will support your goals. Even now, almost five months into my journey, I find that certain people, while likely unintentional, want to make excuses for me. Reasons why I should or shouldn’t do certain things or what I should or shouldn’t eat. You will always be faced with people who will mock or belittle your choices. You need to decide what works for you and stick to your guns. I have a lot of education to support the decisions I have made for my own journey and if I was ever unsure, I reached out to reliable resources. Then, once the excuses are out of the way, figure out what motivates you and always have that in mind when faced with an opportunity to go off the rails. I have gone off the rails from time to time, and it’s okay to have setbacks while on your journey, we are all human after all. The important thing is that you are able to get the train back on the tracks. Don’t lose sight through what can feel like a heavy fog. Refocus and drive hard towards your goals again. Push through those excuses or obstacles or people who encourage you to be less than your best self. I believe in you.

I will feel awful if I don’t eat well. I will have less energy if I don’t exercise. I won’t be a good example for my kids if I give up today. Moreover, I will be letting my amazing body down. It has given me so much – the ability to live, breathe, and of course birth my children. It’s time for me to give back to myself by eating well and partaking in physical activities that make my body feel good and energetic.I suppose when I think about it, I still have excuses… only now they are filled with purpose and intention. They are my reasons why I want to eat well, exercise, and lead a healthy and active lifestyle. Are you prepared to give up all the reasons why you can’t?! You can do it. You’ve got this!

Melissa Smith

Melissa Smith


Melissa is a devoted wife and loving mother of three. She is a creative soul with a passion for the outdoors. Melissa is an entrepreneur, author, and lifestyle blogger. Her focus is to spend more time with her family as she returns to her passions for health and wellness and teaching. 2018 has been a year of growth and change, and she enthusiastically looks forward to everything that is still to come.

Melissa Smith
Author: Melissa Smith