e017 – Toxicity Detox – with Sabrina Greer
Welcome back Mamas and Happy 2019.
2018 was a pretty crazy year, wasn't it? I don't know about you but I am so happy to be back. I thoroughly missed the podcasting game and all of you! Today I dive into what I do instead of New Year's resolutions.
Listen, I've got nothing against resolutions if they work for you, but for me, it just sets me up for disappointment and failure due to unrealistic expectations and rigid deadlines. As mothers, we have no choice but to be flexible, amirite? We don't know from moment to moment what is coming at us next, let alone a few months from now. I am not suggesting to stop setting goals for yourself, quite the opposite actually, I am suggesting setting fluid, flexible goals and encouraging you to go easy on yourself with said goals.
On today's episode, the very first episode of season two, I, Sabrina Greer, share with you, not my recap of 2018, not my goal setting strategies or hopes and promises for 2019, I share a simple life-shift that works for me in hopes to empower you and set you up for success in the coming year.
Did you know that 86% of people that make new years resolutions, give them up by January 17th? I came across this staggering statistic in my research and it got me thinking . . . WHY?
I believe it is the rigidity of resolutions. There is little room for error. They force you to go cold turkey, and like a bad diet, do not net long-term results just quick fixes. I share with you my personal formula that has worked for me several years in a row now. Toxicity Detoxing.
Toxicity Detoxing requires you to look at the things in your life that are no longer serving you.
I made a list of five, however, subcategories are welcomed here.
- Toxic People/Relationships - Maybe someone you follow on Instagram makes you feel bad about yourself? A mommy-group you are a member of is constantly shaming others, in turn, making you feel anxious or less than? Maybe your MIL is a real piece of work? Is a childless friend consistently guilt-trippin' you? Bye... I am not suggesting cutting people off or out of your life completely but, what would happen if you spent less time, less energy, less mental space on these relationships? Jim Rohn says "you are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with." Who are you becoming? Who are you showing up as? I say - see ya to any toxic person or relationship that is no longer serving you! It is normal for friendships to change and evolve. Do not let toxic relationships or people hold you back.
- Toxic Behaviours/Habits - Is your new year's resolution to quit smoking? Wake up earlier? Get to the gym five days a week? Maybe you drink eight cups of coffee a day and your resolution is to quit caffeine? I may not be a practicing psychiatrist but psychology 101 taught me this - harsh and rigid rules like these set you up for failure. Try a day-by-day approach, small actionable steps that get you closer to your desired outcome. We have all heard "it takes 21 days to change a habit" right? Well if this is the case and you quit by the 17th, we don't stand a chance. I believe in fluidity and flexibility, being kind and gentle with ourselves, celebrating our wins, even the small ones and not getting bent out of shape about our setbacks. Life is too short sista!
- Toxic Substances - what have you noticed is not serving your body? Coffee? Wine? Dairy? I do not believe in crash diets (not saying I haven't tried them all) but what if you just ate what nourished your body and felt good, rather than following some trend of the moment? Hey if Ketosis is your jam or Atkins works for you, power to you Mama. My point is, what works for one blood, body, energy type can't possibly work for all. Do what feels good and empowers YOU.
- Toxic Environments - Have you been binge-watching Netflix series Tidying Up? Me too. A toxic environment is one that is cluttered, full of bad energy. Maybe you are a mamapreneur and need an office space that is just for you? Car detail perhaps? I am not saying you have to thank your t-shirt every time you put it away or have a sage-burning ritual, but I do think there are many ways to make your environment serve you and spark some mother-f**n' JOY Mama!
- Toxic Thoughts - last but not least, in fact, this is the most important piece and if you take away nothing else from this episode, take this. Bob Proctor said it best "what you think about, you bring about" meaning your thoughts are tangible. Another quote I love is "whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right" ~ Henry Ford. Your thoughts are the most powerful thing you have. If you live in a negative headspace, your world will be negative. If you live in a positive mindset, guess what? Yep, life will be good.
A few things I implement to ensure success and keep me on track with my detoxing regimen.
- Gratitude - I do not mean just being thankful and saying thank you. Have a gratitude PRACTICE, because it surprisingly does take practice. I use an app called The Five Minute Journal and love it. There is also a physical journal too for my old school gals. My favorite book on gratitude, this is a MUST is The Magic by Rhonda Byrne.
- Personal Development - I know eye roll and vomit face emoji but guys, I am serious. This woo-woo stuff works. You may not be into The Secret but please go get The Five Second Rule by Mel Robbins and The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod (there is even a parent-specific version). They are life-changing, game-changing books.
- Affirmations - Okay now I have totally lost you, right? Well, I would have called myself crazy too but this is really helpful. No, you do not have to talk to yourself in the mirror but do write yourself little letters. "I am an amazing mother" could be a great place to start.
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